The Nomadic...

"No one can keep me tied for long....like the sand dunes, i shift and re-invent myself with every caress of a sandstorm...i realized, that is the key to staying sane and avoiding being hurt...for nothing lasts foreover....not even love...."



I do not agree with the above school of thought. In one of my earlier posts I had already mentioned that disagreeing with someone does not necessarily also indicate a closed mind to that person, so I thought I should be clear once more on that. I can understand and accept someone believing in "changing forms", but I fail to see the point of it.

Remember, that no matter how big or small the sandstorms of life may be... they may easily change your apparent form, but not your true identity which shall still lie within the small grains of sand. In my line of thought, I can view the sand dunes and its ever changing form as our "frame of mind", and the sand grains as our "self consciousness". So what life deals out for us only imprints the mind frame, but to have an effect on the self would need a profound understanding of the self itself. So I guess it depends on whether you wish to focus "without" or "within"... as all the storms only pass on the surface, and the deeper you go the calmer you can be.

Now the second part about "avoid being hurt". I really do not know if that is indeed sane, or in fact really insane. Although happiness is duly searched by almost everyone alive (and dead maybe, havent been there yet), I find sorrow and grief to be far more compelling and intense. In fact, through history "hurt" has proven to be more of a fuel for creativity (music, plays), destruction (wars) and many more things that have brought forth many years of development in more ways than one. I would be really insane to walk through life without having seen the color of "hurt", but that is just my school of thought. I am not saying I love to get hurt. Just that I am open to my fair share of what my tailor made life has in store for me. And to that, I do not wish avoid anything.

"Nothing lasts forever". Well, once again it depends on one's definition of "thing" as well as one's notion of "forever". Ofcourse, if you are talking about biological beings as "things", and your lifetime as "forever", nothing will ever last forever :) But if you refer to the pair of your "soul" and "eternity", well then its still lasting, isnt it? And I feel its the presence of things at appropriate times which is more crucial than the effect of it lasting a while. Everything does happen for a reason. And if you are only going to evaluate the significance of something based on its "last-ablity", then I think you are missing the point. You may have gone through a relationship that turned sour on you. But in that if you fail to remember the good times you shared, then I think you have the tendency to rush through life, trying best to take account of what you have, and what is going to stay, instead of enjoying the ride, that will never last forever.

And if you are indeed hurt by someone else, or by other circumstances of life, the best way to calm yourself is to try and rationalize with yourself your true definition of happiness (as it varies from person to person), and then focus only on achieving that.

"Being happy doesnt mean that the world is perfect; It just means that you have chosen to see beyond imperfection" - Unknown.